In todays’ world, a lot of people, especially women, are not comfortable in their own bodies. From race, gender identity, sexual orientation, age, physical ability, and sexual health, they feel marginalized. But one person is brave enough to speak about a topic we normally avoid, and she calls it bodyfullness.
Dr. Rachel Allyn is a licensed holistic psychologist for almost 20 years specializing in body-mind medicine, relationship therapy, and sexual health. She helps individuals and couples cope with their mood, life transitions and relationship challenges. She also wrote the book, “The Pleasure Is All Yours”. This book is based on the same topic as her 2019 TEDx talk focusing on the method of "bodyfullness," which integrates embodied mindfulness, self-regulation practices to cope with trauma and stress, and reclaiming life's healthy pleasures and intimacy with others.
In this episode, Dr. Rachel Allyn talks about her book The Pleasure Is All Yours. She focuses on some issues some people and women are not comfortable talking about, but are really important. Dr. Rachel is changing the way women or even men look at their bodies.
Joy is about healthy pleasure practices, to receive that and to share that with others. - Dr. Rachel Allyn
[04:57] Dr. Rachel Allyn wrote the book for people who deals with body marginalization.
[06:20] Moments of dis-ease can turn into disease over time if we don't tend to ourselves and care for ourselves.
[07:48] Growing up, her parents played a huge role in who she has become today. Her mom influenced her in terms of reproductive health and her father encouraged the athlete in her, which relates to movement as her medicine.
[09:56] Dr. Allyn wanted to help and serve others to have more love and to accept their own bodies.
[10:20] Being straight-forward or confrontational about intimacy and sexual health makes people uncomfortable.
[11:22] For a time, Dr. Allyn tried being a TV news reporter before landing on psychotherapy, and being a psychologist.
[13:21] Taking Psychology classes and eventually earning her PhD.
[14:30] Joining her yoga teacher training and how yoga is beneficial to her sport cross-country skiing.
[15:21] Dr. Rachel took Yoga teacher training because she felt there’s a connection between body and mind.
[17:02] Yoga helped her go through the early stages of her divorce.
[20:08] Applying Somatic Therapy in dealing with different traumas.
[23:35] During the pandemic, there was a rise in the need for mental health professionals. She was practicing full time and writing her book at the same time.
[25:13] With the pandemic, unpleasant news, writing a book, and circumstances happening in her life, caused her to feel like a postpartum depression.
[26:59] She applied the self regulating practices she talked about in her book.
[29:36] Nothing goes away until it teaches you what you need to know. - Pema Chodron
[30:00] The Pleasure Is All Yours is for everybody.
[32:56] Working on her online curriculum to help other clinicians to learn about bodyfullness.
[33:42] How the term bodyfullness came to be.
[35:54] Aiming to help others, starting with women through events and trainings about sexual health, learning about their bodies, relational health, and emotional intelligence that are not taught in school.
[40:07] Mantra for motivation - Fall seven times, stand up eight.
[40:20] When dealing with loss - I have what I have and I'm happy I've lost, I've lost and I'm still happy.
[41:12] In bodyfullness, there are times you need to discharge and release, and in times you need to find containment.
[43:06] Joy is about healthy pleasure practices, to receive that and to share that with others. - Dr. Rachel Allyn
Rachel Allyn, PhD has been a licensed holistic psychologist for almost 20 years specializing in body-mind medicine, relationship therapy, and sexual health. She helps individuals and couples cope with their mood, life transitions and relationship challenges.
As a certified yoga teacher, at times Dr. Allyn incorporates the body into her sessions and leads therapeutic workshops and retreats. She recently released a book called, “The Pleasure Is All Yours: Reclaim Your Body's Bliss and Reignite Your Passion for Life.” This book is based on the same topic as her 2019 TEDx talk focusing on the method of "bodyfulness," which integrates embodied mindfulness, self-regulation practices to cope with trauma and stress, and reclaiming life's healthy pleasures and intimacy with others. Her motto is: Pleasure to the People! When she’s not spreading this message, you can find her skiing, surfing or singing karaoke.
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Where to buy The Pleasure Is All Yours: Shambhala Publications